MORE ON LEARNING ENGLISH-( MOLE) 103 PART ONE MY FAVORITES

• Get out of a mental rut, think new thoughts, acquire new visions, discover new ambitions.
•  2. Make friends quickly and easily.
•  3. Increase your popularity.
•  4. Win people to your way of thinking.
•  5. Increase your influence, your prestige, your ability to get things done
• . 6. Handle complaints, avoid arguments, keep your human contacts smooth and pleasant
• . 7. Become a better speaker, a more entertaining conversationalist.
•  8. Arouse enthusiasm among your associates.
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• “For the great aim of education,” said Herbert Spencer, “is not knowledge but action.” 
• . Stop frequently in your reading to think over what you are reading. Ask yourself just how and when you can apply each suggestion. 
• 6. Bernard Shaw once remarked, “If you teach a man anything, he will never learn.”
•  Only knowledge that is used sticks in your mind.
• Offer your spouse, your child or some business associate a dime or a dollar every time he or she catches you violating a certain principle. Make a lively game out of mastering these rules. 
• In order to get the most out of this book:
•  a. Develop a deep, driving desire to master the principles of human relations. 
• b. Read each chapter twice before going on to the next one. 
• c. As you read, stop frequently to ask yourself how you can apply each suggestion. 
• d. Underscore each important idea.
•  e. Review this book each month.
•  f. Apply these principles at every opportunity.
•  Use this volume as a working handbook to help you solve your daily problems.
•  g. Make a lively game out of your learning by offering some friend a dime or a dollar every time he or she catches you violating one of these principles.
•  h. Check up each week on the progress you are making. Ask yourself what mistakes you have made, what improvements, what lessons you have learned for the future.
•  i. Keep notes in the back of this book showing how and when you have applied these principles.
• As Lincoln lay dying, Secretary of War Stanton said, “There lies the most perfect ruler of men that the world has ever seen.”
• Lincoln, “with malice toward none, with charity for all,” held his peace. One of his favorite quotations was “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” 
• “Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof,” said Confucius, “when your own doorstep is unclean.”
• When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic.
•  We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
• Benjamin Franklin, tactless in his youth, became so diplomatic, so adroit at handling people, that he was made American Ambassador to France. The secret of his success? “I will speak ill of no man,” he said, "and speak all the good I know of everybody.
• A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle, “by the way he treats little men.”
•  Yes, just one way. And that is by making the other person want to do it. 
• Some of the things most people want include: 1. Health and the preservation of life. 
• 2. Food.
•  3. Sleep. 
• 4. Money and the things money will buy. 
• 5. Life in the hereafter.
•  6. Sexual gratification. 
• 7. The well-being of our children. 
• 8. A feeling of importance.  
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• Lincoln once began a letter saying, “Everybody likes a compliment.”
•  William James said, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” He didn’t speak, mind you, of the “wish” or the “desire” or the “longing” to be appreciated.
•  He said the “craving” to be appreciated.
• Why did Andrew Carnegie pay a million dollars a year, or more than three thousand dollars a day, to Charles Schwab? Why?
•  Because Schwab was a genius? No.
•  Because he knew more about the manufacture of steel than other people? Nonsense. 
• Charles Schwab told me himself that he had many men working for him who knew more about the manufacture of steel than he did. 
• “I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people,” said Schwab, “the greatest  
• asset I possess and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.
• If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise.” 
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• The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. 
• One is sincere and the other insincere.
•  One comes from the heart out;
•  the other from the teeth out.
•  One is unselfish; the other selfish.
•  One is universally admired; 
• the other universally condemned.
•  Be afraid of the friends who flatter you.
• Nothing pleases children more than this kind of parental interest and approval.
• I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. 
• Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
• Emerson said: “Every man I meet is my superior in some way, In that, I learn of him.” 
• I dangled a worm or a grasshopper in front of the fish and said, “Wouldn’t you like to have that?”
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