MORE ON LEARNING ENGLISH-(MOLE) DALE CARNEGIE 106

MORE ON LEARNING ENGLISH-(MOLE) DALE CARNEGIE 106

August 22, 2024

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What was the secret of Lincoln’s success in dealing with people?
I studied the life of Abraham Lincoln for ten years and devoted all of three years to writing and rewriting a book entitled Lincoln the Unknown.
I believe I have made as detailed and exhaustive a study of Lincoln’s personality and home life as it is possible for any being to make.
I made a special study of Lincoln’s method of dealing with people.
Did he indulge in criticism? Oh, yes.
As a young man in the Pigeon Creek Valley of Indiana, he not only criticized but he wrote letters and poems ridiculing people and dropped these letters on the country roads where they were sure to be found.
One of these letters aroused resentments that burned for a lifetime.
Even after Lincoln had become a practicing lawyer in Springfield, Illinois, he attacked his opponents openly in letters published in the newspapers.
But he did this just once too often.
In the autumn of 1842 he ridiculed a vain, pugnacious politician by the name of James Shields.
Lincoln lambasted him through an anonymous letter published in Springfield Journal.
The town roared with laughter. Shields, sensitive and proud, boiled with indignation.
He found out who wrote the letter, leaped on his horse, started after Lincoln, and challenged him to fight a duel.
Lincoln didn’t want to fight.
He was opposed to dueling, but he couldn’t get out of it and save his honor.
He was given the choice of weapons.
Since he had very long arms, he chose cavalry broadswords and took lessons in sword fighting from a West Point graduate; and, on the appointed day, he and Shields met on a sandbar in the Mississippi River, prepared to fight to the death; but, at the last minute, their seconds interrupted and stopped the duel.
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That was the most lurid personal incident in Lincoln’s life.
It taught him an invaluable lesson in the art of dealing with people.
NEVER again did he write an insulting letter.
Never again did he ridicule anyone.
And from that time on, he almost never criticized anybody for anything.
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Lincoln, “with malice toward none, with charity for all,” held his peace. One of his favorite quotations was “Judge not, that ye be not judged.
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Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain, and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.
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“A great man shows his greatness,” said Carlyle, “by the way he treats little men.”
There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors.
I never criticize anyone.
I believe in giving a person incentive to work.
So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault.
If I like anything, I am hearty in my approbation and lavish in my praise.”
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Carnegie wanted to praise his assistants even on his tombstone. He wrote an epitaph for himself which read: “Here lies one who knew how to get around him men who were cleverer than himself.”
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